The person who came home empty

Some people arrive home after work feeling disconnected, flat or unable to take part in the evening. That experience can be painful for them and for the people around them. It may be associated with work stress or burnout, but it can also relate to low mood, grief, sleep disruption, physical health, caring responsibilities, relationship strain or other circumstances. A blog cannot diagnose the cause. The image of coming home empty can still be useful because it asks what the day required and what is left afterwards. It may involve constant decision making, conflict, commuting, financial worry, a lack of breaks or the effort of appearing fine. Naming the pattern is not the same as blaming work, family or the person who is struggling. A CBT based assessment can explore thoughts, routines, avoidance, responsibility, rest and the impact on daily life where appropriate. It should also consider whether medical review, workplace support, practical advice or another service is more relevant. Therapy is not a promise to restore energy or repair a relationship, and it is not a substitute for urgent or medical care. Where CBT based work is suitable, any behavioural experiment or change in routine should be collaboratively planned and paced with a clinician. If there is immediate danger, a risk of harm, or an urgent medical or mental health need, use an appropriate emergency, crisis or healthcare service. The Lyceum offers CBT based support in West London and online where clinically appropriate.