Feeling unheard in a relationship can be painful, whether the issue shows up as missed plans, repeated requests, interrupted conversations, different expectations or a growing sense of loneliness. A blog cannot establish why a particular couple is struggling, whether anyone has ADHD or what kind of support they need. Neurodiversity may be relevant for some people, but it is not the only possible context. Stress, sleep, health, work pressure, resentment, trauma, communication habits, caring responsibilities and safety can all affect how partners experience one another. Assessment can make room for these differences without reducing one person to a label or making the other person responsible for managing everything. CBT may be considered after assessment where appropriate. It does not ask a partner to diagnose, fix or monitor someone else. It also does not guarantee that a relationship will continue or that one conversation will resolve a long standing pattern. Where relational work is suitable, goals, consent, boundaries and the scope of the work need to be clear. Sometimes individual support is more appropriate than joint work, especially if one person does not want to attend, if there is a significant power imbalance or if safety is a concern. If someone feels frightened, controlled, threatened or unsafe, specialist domestic abuse support or urgent help may be more appropriate than communication exercises. The aim may be to understand patterns more clearly, communicate needs with less blame and make choices that respect both people. Progress can be uneven. No partner needs a diagnosis in order to say that something is difficult or to ask for support. For related information, see CBT support for ADHD related difficulties at lyceumclinic.co.uk/therapy/adhd/, the ADHD and relationships guide at lyceumclinic.co.uk/guides/adhd relationships cbt west london/ and neurodivergent couple conflict support at lyceumclinic.co.uk/guides/neurodivergent couple conflict cbt/. If relationship distress involves crisis, thoughts of self harm or an inability to keep safe, urgent appropriate help is needed.